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Pretty Girls who are attracted to the bad boys
What some girls are attracted to can sometimes come with mixed blessings. If the girl is of a weak nature and gives off that she like to be controlled and her man is the boss!.....very often these types of men will take charge becoming the girls main influence, dominating her into being the way he wants her to be for him. After all some guys because of the way their brought up or it could be possible ignorance, have an old fashion notion that no girl must ever be in a position to take the piss by having a say in matters, backchat them no!...... 'she must do as i say'.........because in their minds there's no such thing as equality of the sexes!
In true chauvinistic fashion they dismisses the girls dreams and aspirations, resetting their agenda in the form of them just being background trophies to compliment the man's lifestyle. Fooling her would be normal, putting her off or scarring away anyone who try's to help her out to go forward in life, also people she might be motivated by that could set her free of her needing him for anything, as he must be the only person she needs. He will create false arguments, such as calming she's seeing another man and being viciously angry just to frighten her of what could happen if she did try to go off with someone else. These are all common tactics used by these types of men to control the women and it very often works, as they confuse the girl with being extra nice every now and then. This can only work on women who want to believe in the person they have as a partner will change, but they very often don't!, its sometimes the woman's fault for giving the power to that type of man over time into accepting that kind of treatment despite advise from observing friends and family
There seems to be a reoccurring theme with really good looking women when it comes to their choice of man that they waste the most time with. Ending up with some bastard type who for the longest time make them feel they are useless without him. Playing a sort of confidence trick on women who the man knows can do & get better. He make's her feel guilty about wanting to look sexy and enjoying herself because it will increase her confidence and also attract her to others.. If the woman has children, making her feel no one will want her because of them. forcing her to dress down, not wear make-up and even stopping her from going out altogether. It normally takes a real bad turn of events to make the woman wake up and become liberated to free herself. That is why you see so many single women out there that are wearing their weave's, dressing up and having fun. Entering into a complete change of lifestyle celebrating the discovery of their true worth........re educating themselves for a new job the lot.
This can also be sometimes translated as a case of insecurity on the mans part. On the face of it he projects the attitude to the girl of not caring if she stays or leaves, because there's too many other girls better than her out there that want him. If he's of the sort with money or good looks they normally get away with it, making her think she's disposable. If he's not so well equipped then he might rule by getting her addicted to sex with him or fear. In reality for fear of losing the girl, he keeps up the pressure on making her feel small, highlighting her faults, flaws, creating the illusion that she's lucky to have him with the way she is, in a way convincing her that no one else really wants her and he is doing her a big favour.
Who's to say, there are girls out there that like it just like that, they are willing victims. Not wanting someone with whom they can easily manipulate, girls can even become addicted to over the top crazy antics, weird behaviour, battles & conflicts, wrongly believing that its sort of romantic 'he's just carrying on like this because really loves me' when its really just control. They think by choosing someone aggressive or the bad boy type they can keep the world at bay and no one can bother them.......The Prisons have a few guys in them who went over the top playing out the Bad Boy role to their girls.
Playing mind games with an unpredictable man who they may fear is even a real turn on for some, who in an undercover perverse way love the trill of not knowing what's going to happen next. Maybe have it in her mind that she can eventually tame him or even end up one day controlling him. For some it even their misguided idea of a real man, you know how some girls love to show off to people 'my boyfriend he's crazy, he might beat you up if he turns up now' etc. Unfortunately these tactics seems to work on a lot of girls, whether they have that bit of wickedness in them or could be completely innocent, as many of them feels that the choice of even better looking girls out there for the man could cause them to loose out, as some hate the thought of the man (as bad as he is) being taken by someone else! (depending on the foolish pride level and also mentality of the woman) It's even sadder for the nice guys who are not that way inclined, having to witness those types of men getting what appear to be the sweetest girls.
Some girls have an ego, only going for philanderers with lots of other cute girls around them completing for the spotlight. Their driven by the competition, believing their better equipped with beauty and charm to get what ever they want. It seems that in this day and age, many pretty girls out there don't like men to think that their just all good looks with no fire!............they would tolerate any amount of weirdness & bad treatment just to prove that they are a bad girl that can handle a bad boy!!!...... A game is being played by some girls of acting venerable & controllable, having some guy boss them about tricks him into getting involved with them, & makes the man feels big that he's in control. We have to bear in mind also, that a lot of the more shallower type people's choice's are influenced by impressing their friends.........what goes on behind closed doors is of a lesser importance's to them, as long as the person looks good in public!!
Then we come to the Gold-digger type, they go for the money...want fame & all the luxuries, badly in need of someone important like person with a big name & successful to show off to everyone that the big fish wants them more than all the other girls because their so desirable! Being closely associated with an indivisual like that makes them also look good.......Yes having money and stardom can be a type of bad boy attraction to some women, the private hell they also might live don't matter so much to them because they view it all as tempory anyway. Those types nomally have a game plan, while acting out the part as the mans fool their quietly using them, getting what they can out of them until the next better maybe more richer guys comes along to take them on to the next level......There's been a long history of failure from the beginning of time with most relationships like that becaused its flawed from the offset, the foundations is based on targetting for ambitions, and not for any love of the person. Not much loyalty can be expected from those types of girls, the men with money after awhile normally finds out what's up, treats them bad and eventually gets rid of them!.
Some women cant be advised, they will still run straight to danger because they love the challenge even if it destroys. Destructive women who have little faith in themselves when it comes to being in an relationship, sometimes choose certain type of men knowing that as soon as the real them kicks in on the man.........he'll be off!! ....They just wanna have fun.....leave their options open & really don't want all that commitment stuff ..... Their not use to peace and stability.......too free spirited to hang around one man for too long it boring to them. Because of their various issues they can often drive a nice guy who becomes serious about them into becoming ah Bad boy, going on to treat other girls (who could be nice) wrongly!!!
In life things don't always stay the same........ people can change on you!!.... The nice person that you've been enjoying can become a person you start to hate! Both men and women can sometimes get to the point of feeling they are like prisoners of love!....... Out of frustration a man may feel he needs to put the girl in her place, and might react by hitting her to falsely make her feel that all her looks, love and sex is meaningless to him. The more braver type girls may seek revenge by going out there and play the old jealousy game, to get herself appreciated by using some other more impressive guy just to push it right back in the boyfriends face. This could also for the girl save her own face after breaking up ' look i got a better man now' amongst enquiring friends and family.................very very common.
Both these's course's of actions normally have very dangerous consequence's, as those kind of moves can create deep and hurtful feelings of sometimes unforgivable bitterness . No one likes to feel that their worth nothing to another person, who they've given the very best of themselves to, ........... get laugh at, disrespected, rejected then finally to have the whole experience with themselves summed up as being rubbish!
While we are in this particular arena of volatile relationships with bad boy types, there is a slightly more taboo angle that is practice by some, that's is rarely admitted only by all but the most open and straight talking type of people, that's is the business of deliberately provoking a person into aggravated violence with the intention of a break up. Some girls know just how to really piss their man off, and use it when they feel the relationship is getting a bit boring and need injecting some excitement. By breaking up with the person and coming back with them, it's a kind of way of refreshing their relationship Given that absence make the heart fonder, sex and everything else is rejuvenated for a while , that is of course until the next time.
The game of break-up to make-up is played out more often with these types of couples. In the long run, the girl's true potential as a person is not usually realized. Plenty of pretty girls fall for this type of man as the constant advances from men glorifying them everyday, poses no challenge to their deeper insecurities, they end up only responding to guys with game who play it cool and don't go obviously crazy over them. when they get involved, ends up confusing bad treatment for concern and love, after a while could actually believe their in need of the discipline and its even their fault.
She may spend a lot of time on the phone getting advice from friends who don't really know what type of person she's like to be with in a relationship, but based on information that she's given them, encourages her to dump him, she agrees, but is unconsciously drawn back to him because that is what she's use to, or sadly in her heart and mind prefers.
The nice guy who comes along with flowers and does everything she wants, normally ends up getting hurt with this sort of girl. Any girl that has dated a few bad boys of the type describe above, as smart as they think they are normally ends up with very little, and seems to continue on the path of being blindly attracted to the same type men without realizing why, after a while , they find 'to the horror of themselves, friends and family' that their looks disappears far more rapidly than that of the average girls of the same given age, from the stress of regular drama, that's the sad truth. It's not true that it's only the girls with low self esteem and no confidences get caught up like this, as any girl whether they have some degree of beauty or not could be fooled by attracting the most unscrupulous people into their life. If you are a caring type individual or a parent you might lean more towards this concern way of thinking.
Written by Ken Dhero
Note:
This Article is in no way intended to put down the pretty girls of this world or the bad boys out there, as there's a lot of good people on both sides who have the right to live as they choose. It should be viewed in the context of being an insight into the opposite end of the relationship spectrum to the fairytale romances. There will be other occasions when I'll discuss the more happier connections, but this type of article has often been requested of me.
This is not written from my own personal experiences, or in anyway a reflection of my taste or own lifestyle, but more from my own life's observations,..... its a study but reality! The real intention of this piece is to act as a mirror to those who maybe in any of the above scenarios, who are not happy with their situation and wish for change.
I hope it gives a better understanding as to how some people live their lives, the choices some make, and why things are happening to them, its real talk from real lives and is whats going on out there with certain types of people every day. This is written in the sprit of enlightenment to improve lives so we can all get along better!.........One love
Extracted from Kenny Passley's Article 'The ugly face of Beauty'